Apart. Part 2.

A few months ago, I wrote about Jason and I deciding to separate. It wasn’t an easy decision or one that was come to quickly. Much thought was put into it and much care was taken to do it the best way possible for both of us and especially for Henry. It has worked very nicely.

The boys took a vacation. Henry and I spent lots of time together. We all three did a few things together. Pretty sure we even laughed, cried, and got a little pissed off at some point.

But after a summer living apart, we’ve decided we like “us” this way. Apart. So apart we will stay.

(yes, you can read into that that we’re getting a divorce)

I can say with 100% certainty, being apart has brought us closer. Not closer as husband and wife, but closer as friends. And more importantly, closer as parents of Henry.

So here’s where we choose to go — our separate ways, which aren’t really separate at all. We will always be connected and always hold a certain love for one another.

There are things that no other person in this world could ever share with us that we have shared together. Only the two of us will ever be able to share the moment when we were told our Charlie would die. Only the two of us will ever be able to share Henry’s first cries and first broken arm and first days of school. Only the two of us will be able to share all our professional ups and downs of the last 17 years, our health ups and downs, and even our emotional ups and downs.

September 26 will be 17 years since we said “I do” on the St. Augustine lawn at The King and Prince in St. Simons. I’m not sure if we will still be married then or if it will all be final, but for the rest of my years, I’ll remember the feel of that grass under my feet as a 22-year-old Jana married the man she loved.

He will always be special. Always be part of me. Always be loved.

But now we both get to go and find our new happy, new life, and hopefully even new love.

Wish us all luck!

Give a Shot. Make a Difference. #Blogust 2015

Give a Shot. Make a Difference. #Blogust 2015

Did you know that around the world, every 20 seconds, a child dies from an illness that is preventable by vaccine? Diseases that have long been managed or eradicated in the US are still taking lives around the world — measles, polio, diarrhea, pneumonia. One in five children lack access to immunizations that will save their lives.

Have you buried a child? I hope not.

I have. And it shakes me to my core to think that there are over a million children a year dying from something that is preventable. Think about that number. It’s earth-shattering.


A few months ago, I was asked to become a Champion for Shot@Life, an arm of the UN Foundation that…

“educates, connects and empowers Americans to champion vaccines as one of the most cost-effective ways to save the lives of children in developing countries. A national call to action for a global cause, the campaign rallies the American public, members of Congress, and civil society partners around the fact that together, we can save a child’s life every 20 seconds by expanding access to vaccines. By encouraging Americans to learn about, advocate for, and donate to vaccines, Shot@Life aims to decrease vaccine-preventable childhood deaths and give every child a shot at a healthy life.” (from Shot@Life)

I was honored by this because after Charlie died, I had a big realization.

I have something in me that this world needs. My voice. My passion. My desire to never see another child in a casket. When I was asked to share one of my favorite quotes for Blogust 2015, I knew it was this one.blogust quote

We all have something in us the world needs. Maybe it’s your desire to make beautiful art or write amazing books. Maybe it’s that you sing or make a great latte or can hold someone’s hand and instantly make them feel better.

You can make a difference.

And so can these children whose lives we aim to save. They were born into this world for a reason. Let’s get them the life-saving vaccines they need, so they can fulfill their purpose.

It’s easy to make a difference during Blogust.

Simply comment on this post or like/share it on Facebook or retweet it on Twitter. Each action equals one vaccine donated to a child around the world.


During Shot@Life’s Blogust 2015—a month-long blog relay—some of North America’s most beloved online writers, photo and video bloggers and Shot@Life Champions will come together and share inspirational quotes for their children.

Every time you comment on this post and other Blogust contributions, or take action using the social media on this website, Shot@Life and the United Nations Foundation pages, one vaccine will be donated to a child around the world (up to 50,000).

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