I Wouldn’t Change A Thing

I Wouldn’t Change A Thing

Today, Jason and I mark our 16th wedding anniversary. I know what you’re thinking… “She must’ve been 10 when she got married.” No, actually, I was 22 and three weeks out of college. A baby, yes. A child bride, not quite.

I look at Pinterest and see photo shoots my friends do of some amazing weddings, weddings I wish were mine. Oh, if I had it all to do over, I would do this, that and the other thing. 

No. Actually I wouldn’t change a thing.

It was a at the beach, a week after a tropical storm blew through. A destination wedding before destination weddings were cool.

It was the only off weekend for Auburn AND Georgia. And Georgia Tech was playing away. (Those are the most important details, y’all.)

The morning of the wedding, the hotel decided to lay new St. Augustine sod right in the area where the aisle was. Do you know how hard it is to walk on fresh sod?

I did my own flowers, except the bouquets and boutonnieres.

My cake decided to lean at a precarious angle, causing friends to dismantle it while we were taking pictures. I was hardheaded and refused to cut it before it was time in the pre-arranged schedule.

Everything didn’t go according to plan, but at the end of the night, after everybody else went to the Village to see The Outfield play a concert, we were married. Til death do us part.

Lighthouse Wedding


And to this day, I wouldn’t change a thing. Not about our wedding day, and not about our life together. Sure, it hasn’t been all roses and sunshine, but life isn’t always roses and sunshine. And it’s led us to where we are and led us to the life we’ve made.

We’ve defied the odds and laughed at statistics. People don’t survive things we’ve been through.

But we have. So far, we’re still standing.

Happy 16th Anniversary, Jason. Here’s to many more!

Being Alone. What is that?

Mama’s Losin’ It
Today I’m going to link up with Mama Kat and her Pretty Much World Famous Writer’s Workshop.

I chose the following prompt:

List the top 10 things you miss about being alone.

(Inspired by The Little Hen House)

I chose that prompt because it struck me hard. Very hard.

I have never lived alone.

I have never BEEN alone. 

I went from home to college where I always had a roommate to home for 3 weeks and then got married. The closest I came to living alone was when I did my internship in New Hampshire, but even then I lived with a lady in her condo. We were on opposite schedules so I rarely saw her.

So that got me thinking… what have I missed by never having been alone?

I have nothing to base this on so I’m just guessing that some of these are things that I would miss. (Or that I kinda secretly long to do.)

  1. Sleeping in the middle of the bed. I have to admit, I’ve tried this when Jason’s been traveling but now that there are imprints on each side where we lay, it’s hard to lay in the middle without rolling right back into my little comfy spot.
  2. Laying in bed and watch TV (or read) all day. Even without a kid, that’s hard to justify. But if I were alone, with no husband or kid, I’m assuming I could do that without worrying about anything.
  3. Drinking the milk out of the carton. Pretty sure I wouldn’t do this but I wouldn’t know because I’ve never had the chance.
  4. Eating cereal for every meal. I guess I could do this now, but I feel like I have a responsibility to eat “real meals” since there are others I have to feed.
  5. Being in command of the remote. I live with a husband and son. Need I say more?
  6. Doing ANY activity on a moment’s notice. Well, unless I was still laying in the middle of my bed commandeering the remote while eating cereal and drinking milk out of the carton.
  7. Displaying my collection of Pendelfin bunnies and china dolls. Yeah. My guys don’t appreciate them.
  8. Singing Adele at the top of my lungs while half dressed or naked. I reckon I don’t have to be alone to do this either. Though I do sound MORE like Adele when I’m alone. (stop laughing, I totally do.)
  9. Putting off laundry until there is absolutely nothing clean left in the house. 
  10. Having NO responsibilities except me, myself and I. 
This list was actually really hard to come up with. I can’t imagine living alone. Especially without a kid around. I guess it’s fortunate and unfortunate that I’ve never lived alone. I probably could’ve used some independence at some point in my life, though college and the internship did help with that. But working, paying rent, paying my own bills… that probably would have been very good for me.

I wouldn’t change a thing about the timing of getting married, but I can now see that I missed out on a lot of “me time” that now I’m secretly jealous of others for having.

What else should I be missing from living alone?



 …for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, ’til death do us part…

September 26, 1998

Thirteen years.

Seems like a lifetime, especially when you figure that I was a fresh-faced 22 year old only 3 weeks out of college when I stood in front of my fiance and said the biggest promises of my life.

With friends and family and even a renegade celebrity (yes, I’m looking at you Fred Couples — at least you could’ve put on a nicer shirt and brought a gift) we promised to love, honor and cherish each other until death does us part.

We’ve made it through better and worse.

We’ve made it through sickness and health.

We’ve made it through good times and bad — possibly the worst. The “bad” that statistics say will break you up for sure.

We’ve made it through these things several times over and still? Here we are!

This year, I hope to make more date nights and spring for babysitters so we can go out and enjoy each other’s company without a small person interrupting every other sentence.

I love you, Jason, and hope the next 13 have the same great moments as the first 13 and that the bad stays away!


On that same note, this weekend we got together with 6 of my friends from growing up. Most of us have been friends since we were born, literally. We discussed marriage and realized that together, 7 couples have a combined 69 years of marriage and zero divorces. We talked about how hard marriage is and that it’s a lot of WORK. We’re all very proud of our long marriages (range from 14 years to 5 years) and can’t wait to add them up in a few years!!

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